Sunday, April 27, 2008

It's Started Already

*p-word warning*

I was warned about it. I've seen people do it. In my younger days I may have even done it myself. However, I thought I still had some time before my personal space started to be invaded. I mean, unless you've seen me naked to look at my 2 tiny stretch marks (I mark at the sneeze of a fat cell...) there is no way you would know I was pg! As soon as I came out of the pg closet I might as well have painted a permanent bulls eye on my belly. I'm talking, of course, about The Belly Rub. I have already been felt up by several people. It hasn't happened with strangers or new acquaintances yet, but a couple of my acquaintance-friends (more than a mere acquaintance, but not a close friend) apparently feel free enough to just pat, grab, or rub my abdomen. And the worst part is that since I'm only 16w my pudge is still fairly low in my abdomen so their hands are also kind of low... However, this does give my "girls" a little bit of breathing room (at least for now) from the inevitable "brushes" that are to come.

Why is it that people think that a pregnant woman's body somehow becomes public domain? Most people would never consider touching a non-pregnant person in the middle section without permission. Why don't they think it's necessary to get permission just because I'm growing another person inside me? If you think about it, they are actually invading the personal space of 2 people!

I do realize that there isn't much I can do about this. I knew it was part of pg. I've heard friends complain about it. All I can do is whine on my blog and hope that people will at least ask my permission first before grabbing me.


justme said...

I seriously want to make a shirt that says "I won't rub your bald head so don't touch my belly!" . . .or something like that.

Someone did that to me a few weeks ago and I'm a month behind you. She was like, "Oh! You're starting to show!" (rub, rub) I told her, "Uh, no, that's just my fat. It's too early for me to 'show.'"

Kathy V said...

I read a book that says is you are touched inappropriately without being asked, you should promptly reach your hand out and rub their belly and ask if they thought that was appropriate. While nobody has given me the rub/pat down yet, I plan on doing exactly that, reaching out and rubbing their bellies especially if they don't ask for permission.

I have also seen shirts at That say this sentiment exactly. I want to order one for everyday of the week. They say things like Stop, if you didn't put the baby in there then don't rub my belly, or You can touch mine if I can touch yours. I thought they were really funny.

So I am sorry about the touching. My sister said it happened to her to and she didn't want to be rude but she didn't want to be bothered with people touching her all the time. I think I will have to resort to the t-shirts. Good Luck with it.

Fertilized said...

I couldn't agree more with you and the above posters! It's so annoying.

Road Blocks and Roller Coasters said...

Wow! I've only had a few people rub my belly and they are close friends or relatives. It doesn't really bother me all that much, but if it was a complete stranger I could see how it would just be creepy. Hang in there! :)